My husband wants a divorce but I don’t” – if your husband wants to divorce you, chances are that some of your friends say there is not a thing which can be done. They explain, “The simple utterance of the word ‘divorce’ ends the marriage.” However those ‘experts’ do not know what they are talking about! It is more than attainable to heal your marriage.
It could be true that your husband means to break up with you; and I know (and know) how awful a moment it is when your husband SAYS that he wants a breakup. And I moreover feel that this feeling doesn’t go away easily. That happened to me too, and I felt very tumultuous and ruined. You are frightened since you understand that this is not an easy relationship, it is a marriage; and your whole life is erected upon it.
So yes, it is a natural reaction to be in a desperate state of mind”. But that doesn’t make it a positive state of mind. Such a mindset will lead you into wrong things like begging your spouse for forgiveness. The goal here is to put your spouse under greater and greater pressure so he’ll think twice.
Yes, in this case your husband is going to feel additional pressure but it won’t be a good thing. It is going to reinforce his decision to divorce since it’ll end the misery. Moreover, there is an even more psychological point which makes “begging” a rather poor choice if you would like to to fix your relationship when “my husband wants a divorce.”
This force is nothing but the law “you need whatever is difficult to get”.
I hear you asking the thing that could have to do regarding “my husband wants a divorce”? So much!. remember that being a faint-hearted wife will only make you “easy”. He will, either intentionally or not, believe that you are not worthy of being his wife.
But there’s something different this points at… and you can “use” this law to your support. I told you acting the weak wife is going to make you less desirable. but acting the inaccessible works the contrary direction!
So from now on grow more independent. For instance, go out and stay out until rather late. To seem less accessible many things could be done
Keep in mind that being concerned concerning “my husband wants a divorce” doesn’t allude to the end of your marriage and a lot of things could be done.