My husband wants a divorce but I don’t” – if your husband wants to divorce you, chances are that some of your friends say there is not a thing which can be done. They explain, “The simple utterance of the word ‘divorce’ ends the marriage.” However those ‘experts’ do not know what they are talking about! It is more than attainable to heal your marriage.
It could be true that your husband means to break up with you; and I know (and know) how awful a moment it is when your husband SAYS that he wants a breakup. And I moreover feel that this feeling doesn’t go away easily. That happened to me too, and I felt very tumultuous and ruined. You are frightened since you understand that this is not an easy relationship, it is a marriage; and your whole life is erected upon it.
So yes, it is a natural reaction to be in a desperate state of mind”. But that doesn’t make it a positive state of mind. Such a mindset will lead you into wrong things like begging your spouse for forgiveness. The goal here is to put your spouse under greater and greater pressure so he’ll think twice.